Prioritizing Your Matrimonial Expectations
While back in the times, the decision of who you marry was mainly left for the older generations of the household; today the Indian youth has the freedom to make an informed decision as to who or what is the kind of person they wish to spend the rest of their lives with.
While opting for an arranged matrimonial it is only fair that a bride or a groom sets down a list of priorities in terms of the factors that would help then decide whether or the the person is a suitable life partner. What are these factors? And how does one ensure that they are not being to unreasonable when it comes to the expectations they are set aside out of the person which whole they will be bound in matrimonials?
While it is extremely important to judge a person from the first meeting or interaction itself, it is natural that you start judging them by the way they look at carry themselves. As shallow or materialistic you may come across to be rating someone purely on how they look, remember the phrase “Do not judge a book by its cover”. If you spend sufficient time with the person, his or her family members and ask the right questions, your judgement for or against the person is bound to be more accurate based on the talks you have than on the basis of how they look, dress or carry themselves.
Consider the possibility of the opposite person being nervous because they want to make sure they impress you. This alone may be a major factor in the way they behave or dress, which is not their usual conduct.
Getting to know the person and his or her family background is the true route to building a strong and possible matrimonial relationship. Irrespective of the factors that you and your family have set aside to rate a possible marriage, if the opposite party is humble, genuine and your partner and you have common goals and ideas out of life, you are bound to get yourself into a much more fulfilling relationship compared to the one which depends of material pleasures of life which are as fickle as can be.