Starting a New Life Together – Tips for the Newly Weds
You may have just taken your matrimonial vows and life has finally begun for you and your spouse. Irrespective of whether your marriage is arranged or you fell in love, or both; there are bound to be major changes that you will be making in your life to accommodate the new family member.
There are many changes that will have take place in your life, simple things like the sharing the same space at home, the way you plan your expenses and what you choose to do together and when you are apart. Especially in an Indian setting, where the bride makes the move into a new home where the couple is probably going to be living with a host of other family members, there is a lot more to consider than each other’s needs.
Let’s look at the various aspects of settling into a new life that ensures matrimonial bliss for the couple as well as the family members –
Sharing your Space –
The couple may or may not be used to sharing their space with another family member, no matter the love that exists between them. This is a time of new beginnings, so it is important to be patient with each other’s needs and mutually set ground rules on how they intend to harmoniously share space within a home. If the couple is living with other family members they will also have to take into consideration their need for space before choosing to redecorate or make any major changes in the dynamics and structure of the home.
Sharing Ideas and Belief Systems –
Even if the couple may have had sufficient time to get to know each other prior to the matrimonial, there are a number of new things you will learn about your spouse only after you start living together. It is important that you are accepting towards the many ideas, beliefs and quirks that you may or may not agree to. At the same time, remember that you may have some quirks of your own that may be unacceptable by your partner. A happy marriage is built on understanding and compromise. Now is the time to support your spouse through the transition, rather than focusing on areas that you do not admire.
Spending time together –
The way you treat your marriage and your relationship in the first phase of your marriage is the direction it will take in the long run. If you try to avoid the transition process by focusing on getting your own personal space and trying to hunt for ways in which you can have a happy marriage without the need to spend time together all the time, you are asking for trouble when your marriage needs a strong and mature foundation. There is nothing wrong with wanting to spend your free time together. Look for more activities you can do together such as house chores, and other projects which help you develop a sense of togetherness and the feeling of being a single team.
The more adaptive you are to changes at this phase of your life, the easier it will be to settle yourself in to a blissful matrimonial.